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Thursday, July 25, 2013

True Story: Chillin Out, Relaxin'

The time before last that someone told me to relax, I ended up trying for 10 seconds and then crying because relaxing is not something I am capable of doing.  I, quite literally, was stressed out by trying to relax.

The last time someone told me to relax, I was able to sit calmly for about 3 minutes before I got anxious that I was not relaxing properly and also I was bored.

I was talking to one of my friends about how I am getting ready to take a proper vacation (9 whole days! No work!) and I ended up telling her: Of course I am going to New York! It's the city that never sleeps! I will fit right in.  It's guaranteed to be the least relaxing vacation ever. And I am already super anxious about every aspect of the entire trip. Not enough planning! So much stranger danger! How much will it all cost?? What will the weather be like? And on, and on, and on.

 Yesterday I was talking to another friend via Skype who was helping me with my Russian.  She says to me: "You do fine and then you start over thinking it." I laugh and look over at Kaylan, sitting nearby.  "Hey Kaylan, how many times a day do you tell me I am over thinking something?" Kaylan laughs and says, "ummmm 8 or 9. At least."  She also likes to tell me that there are things in life that I  might enjoy if I would just relax and STOP with all of the thinking already.  Please note: we are not talking productive thinking here.  We are talking lying awake for hours thinking about things that I have absolutely no control over.

I have some problems with relaxing.  True story.


  1. I think you may have relaxing mixed up with "doing nothing". Some find no work relaxing but I find some of the work I do relaxing if the deadline isn't too pressing. I definitely get crazy if I'm told not to do anything!

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  2. or....it may be called ruminating which has something to do with your frontal cortex and may be hereditary - yikes! Somewhere on the Giffin side.....breathing is the best method of confronting this situation. First, start by blowing out your breath until you cannot breathe out anymore. This inspires a deep breath in return. Do slowly for 3-4 breaths and then breathe regularly for 10 minutes. Breathing is mindfulness/mindfulness is breathing. Who would think that some many things in life can be cured by breathing in air....and it's FREE! with no side affects. hmmmm.......ahhhhhhhhh.

    love, mama